When friends decide to lose weight
When friends decide to
lose weight try to lose weight it’s always a heartbreaking moment to the fat activist. Some people are laid back about other peoples’ decisions to lose weight or are comfortable to let them make their own decisions.
I’m not like that.
It kills me because I see myself and how far I’ve come. I see the potential. More so, as friends who often read my blog and posts on Facebook, Twitter, etc., I feel personally like I somehow failed in preventing this. One big reason is that I’m so ethically opposed to diet culture, which I view as a form of self-harm and disordered eating.
I can’t help but project my own experiences with a decade-long eating disorder and my almost miraculous turnaround after a single friend handed me a book and asked me to read it. I feel like I can’t help my friends the way my friend helped me.
Still, what can you do? If their Facebook posts are triggering you can unsubscribe, you can give them positive comments when they bring up their weight at lunch, you can tell them that their weight isn’t important until you’re blue in the face, but in the end you can only help so many people.
The people who want that help.