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A Summer Manifesto for Fatties

July 4, 2013

I can finally announce I’m going on vacation this summer! This is a big deal because I hardly go anywhere. A trip to the grocery store is a highlight for me.

Fat folks at the beach

As I look forward to relaxing on the beaches of Ocean City, New Jersey at the end of the month with a good book and a swim in the hotel pool, I thought about how sometimes summer can be frustrating for fat people. We hear comments about how we shouldn’t be seen in tank tops, shorts and swimsuits. We catch flak for sweating that doesn’t come from exercise. We get dirty looks for daring to eat a snowball in public. We are constantly bombarded with TV ads for weight loss products telling us we’re nothing until we look skinny in a bikini or swim trunks. We have to deal with the occasional food police at cookouts.

So I decided to create a summer manifesto for fatties — a list of suggestions to help us survive fat shame in the heat, because we deserve to enjoy summer just like everyone else.  Without further adieu:

  • If your culture/religion/health allows it, wear those tank tops, shorts, and sleeveless summer dresses proudly. If it’s going to be 100 degrees outside, people should not expect us to cover up in long sleeves and jeans to spare them from the sight of a few fat rolls. If it’s going to be hot, we need to stay cool and comfortable, or we’ll end up in the emergency room with heat stroke which, as you know, will make the cost of healthcare even higher, bwhahahaha!
  • Swimsuits are a must for going to the beach and the pool. Don’t let others shame you into wearing a t-shirt and long shorts to swim (I realize some people are sized out of swimsuits, but you still shouldn’t be shamed). If people criticize you, tell them to focus on having fun, not your fat body, whatever you’re wearing.
  • Sweating during the summer is a part of life. Most of us are going to sweat and stink. If people can’t handle seeing a bunch of fatties sweating for whatever reason, realize they’re the ones with a problem, not you.
  • Eat what you want and what you can when you’re at those summer cookouts and parties. Don’t allow guests to lecture you on food, even if those guests are your friends and loved ones. Tell them to worry about their own plates and let it go — or that nice piece of watermelon is going to end up being shoved down their pants.  And if someone has to say something or give you the evil eye while you’re enjoying that ice cream cone, snowball, or other sweet treat, evil eye them right back and simply say “I have a right to eat this just like you do.”
  • Don’t let those commercials and ads for having a body-ready swimsuit get to you. Ignore them, they’re only trying to get your money. Every body is swimsuit ready.
  • Most of all, have fun! You deserve to and you don’t have to justify having fun in a bigger body to anyone.

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7 Comments leave one →
  1. Dizzyd permalink
    July 4, 2013 2:12 pm

    Yeah, you don’t want us to drive up health care costs now, do you? Mwahahaha! Love it, esp. the part about threatening to stuff watermelon down the pants of your local ‘food police’. It’s like ‘give it a rest!’ Too funny!

  2. Stacy permalink
    July 4, 2013 2:24 pm

    Great post. I do think this is something that people can be doing ALL The Time though, not just summer. Because these are human rights, not just summer rights. This one, particularly, struck me as the thing that really shouldn’t be pointed out in this way: “If it’s going to be 100 degrees outside, people should not expect us to cover up in long sleeves and jeans to spare them from the sight of a few fat rolls.”

    People should NEVER “expect us to cover up in long sleeves and jeans to spare them from the sight of a few fat rolls” ..ever. We don’t need 100 degree heat to justify wearing what we want to, when we want to.

    Other than that, great post and something to remember – even when the heat is gone and summer is over. 🙂

  3. Lauren C. permalink
    July 5, 2013 7:01 am

    THANK YOU!! I needed a little reminder to hold my head up!! It stinks when you have a weight obsessed family, like I do. Thanks again!!

  4. July 7, 2013 6:17 am

    Life’s a funny thing. I never expected to be thin, and did nothing to make that happen. Oddly, resembling a human raisin bothers me in a way that being fat never did (at least once I got past age 21, when I did my “last” diet), and I am quite self-conscious about displaying myself in swim trunks in public. This post has emboldened me. Today I’ll go to a local public swimming pool. Thanks for the push!

  5. Elizabeth permalink
    July 7, 2013 1:54 pm

    Hi, Harry, it’s good to remember that there are men who are self-conscious about their bodies, too. My husband’s always been self-conscious and I could never understand why. There’s some great nude pictures online of older people which help to remind us that we look great no matter what our age!

  6. July 13, 2013 5:58 am

    Reblogged this on The Cheese Whines and commented:
    People of all sizes should be allowed to have fun at the beach (and everywhere else) without being harassed about their looks. If I were to go to a beach (reservoir or lake for us land-locked types) I would not be there to be “eye candy” for a bunch of dudebros. Unfortunately, I really don’t have the courage to do this. The Cheese swims alone!

    • Dizzyd permalink
      July 19, 2013 6:55 pm

      Cie – I don’t think you’d be missing anything by swimming without the “dudebros”.

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