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“I’m not bashing … BUT …”

November 25, 2013

Weight LossFat HealthExerciseDickweedDiet Talk

Trigger warning: Maria Kang is an asshole.

A lot of people have spoken about Maria Kang and her apparent anti-fat stance.  Here at FFF we’ve had two posts about it by Gingeroid. As it turns out, Gingeroid’s first post appears to more accurately represent Kang’s views than the second, if you read this recent vent she posted publicly on her Facebook page on November 22 (text cut in it’s entirety, all grammar or spelling mistakes the original author’s):


I woke up this morning to news stories about how overweight nearly obese women should be proud of their bodies (as they posed in lingerie). I think we should all accept how any healthy body through good nutrition and exercise manifests but I’m starting to get annoyed and here’s why:

  1. We have a health issue in America with over 2/3 overweight or obese.
  2. We have a healthcare crisis. We spend over 3 trillion in healthcare yearly!
  3. We have a childhood obesity issue, with many children suffering from adult diseases like diabetes.
  4. We have magazines everywhere praising the celebrity (with all her resources) for being fit after months of giving birth and scorn the “real every day mom” who is able to be successful?
  5. We keep blaming the culprit (school lunches, fast food, etc) when the real change starts at home — ESP those who lead, which are the parents.

There are some serious contradictions in our society. I know many people still get riled up with me and my convictions but the truth is I KNOW how it is to work your ass off and not have energy at the end of your day. I know how it feels to be overweight and not drop an ounce after years of disordered eating. I know how difficult it is to raise multiple children — all born a year apart — and make my fitness and nutrition a priority. Lastly, I know how it feels like to grow up with an unhealthy mother wondering if she will live to see your wedding day.

I know it’s hard. I know it’s not easy to break habits and build new ones. I know your environment challenges you and I know making your health a priority amongst the many priorities to stay afloat in today’s world is difficult. But I will tell you this: IT IS WORTH IT.

We need to change this strange mentality we are breeding in the U.S. and start celebrating people who are a result of hard work, dedication and discipline. I’m not bashing those who are proud and overweight, I am empowering those who are proud and healthy to come out and be the real role models in our society. (Vent done)

Let’s unpack this rant, shall we?

She starts off well with the “we should accept how any healthy body manifests itself” (and even that I have a bit of a quibble with because illness is not necessarily anybody’s “fault,” and even if it is, nobody has a moral imperative to be healthy), and then she quickly reverses herself.


A long time ago I read a new age book about what the word “BUT” means: Behold the Underlying Truth. The basic premise of the book was that when a person says or writes something that has one thing at the beginning, and then uses “but” in the sentence, the real thing they think is what comes after the “but.”

In this case, Kang has a five-point reason she negates the whole “accept how any healthy body manifests itself” at the beginning of her sentence.

Points one through three are concern trolling. “But you’re so unhealthy when you are fat, and I know it because we have a ‘healthcare crisis’ in America!” Oh noes! Two thirds of our population is either overweight or obese! We spend $3 trillion in healthcare every year in America! Kids are not only obese, but getting adult diseases like diabetes now!

Of course, all of these can, and have, been answered numerous times. In 1997, the WHO lowered what the criteria is to be overweight. Overnight, millions of people who before were “healthy” all of the sudden became “unhealthy” and fat. That $3 trillion in healthcare (and she doesn’t quote her sources, but I’ll take her numbers at face value) include *all* times people have to go to the doctor. You know, for things like an ingrown toenail, appendectomy, broken arms or legs, as well as heart attack and diabetes and joint replacements. And people who are thin also have hypertension, strokes, diabetes, just like people who are fat get into car crashes that require many months of physical therapy.

These are all logical fallacies. She uses the black or white, appeal to emotion, and (especially in point number three) false cause logical fallacies.

To me, her fourth point is pure delusion. When have we seen magazines praising only the celebrity skinny bodies, yet scorning the “real every day mom who is successful”? Where, presumably, success is measured by how skinny are you and how big your six pack is.

What it all really comes down to is her final paragraph: “(We need to…) start celebrating people who are a result of hard work, dedication and discipline.” Because, you know, all you fatties out there in your lingerie shouldn’t be so proud of who you are because you are lazy. Your body shows you have no self-discipline, you have no dedication. You don’t know the meaning of the words “hard work.”

“I am empowering those who are proud and healthy to come out and be the real role models in our society.”

Yeah, because nobody EVER gives the “ard working, dedicated and disciplined hard-bodies any positive reinforcement. There are no beauty pageants that celebrate the slender, muscular body. There are no professional hard-body shows, where you win the title based on how big your muscles are and how cut they are.  Because everybody in the world wants to look just like Gabourey Sidibe, and nobody ever wants to look like Gwyneth Paltrow.

She is awesome!

She is awesome!

Uhuh.  And just what color IS the sky in Kang’s world?

12 Comments leave one →
  1. November 25, 2013 1:42 pm

    I would I agree with your commentary, She seems to be 90 percent against fat acceptance and HAES. I imagine that there must some internal roil going on at FFF.

  2. LittleBigGirl permalink
    November 25, 2013 4:29 pm

    1) 100% agree with all you said, and more importantly
    2) I want Gabourey’s dress! XD

  3. vesta44 permalink
    November 25, 2013 4:51 pm

    And what she’s really thinking is that no one has an excuse for being fat, no matter what. According to her, it doesn’t matter what your financial status is, what your genetic heritage is, where you live doesn’t matter, how many kids you have doesn’t matter, how many jobs you have to work to support yourself/your family doesn’t matter, what disabilities you have don’t matter. None of that matters because you’re supposed to find enough energy/ability/time in order to eat healthy and exercise until you get whatever body it is that SHE deems acceptable. And let me tell you, that “acceptable” body isn’t a fat one, not at all, no matter how healthy that fat body happens to be (because “Vague Future Health Threat” y’all).
    As far as I’m concerned, all I have to say to her is “Fuck you. I’m the boss of my underpants, you’re the boss of your underpants, and you have no right to judge me or tell me what I should be doing with/for my body. So again, Ms Kang, you can just go eat shit and bark at the moon.”

  4. lifeonfats permalink
    November 25, 2013 5:40 pm

    She’s one of those that feels since she worked hard to get thin, everyone else can too. It doesn’t work that way Maria. You refuse to realize there are people who have done what you did, even more and still lost no weight or ended up fatter. You refuse to realize that genetics play more of a role. You refuse to realize that all fat people are not lazy and/or walking time bombs waiting to drop dead from just being fat. You refuse to realize that people can be role models and don’t have to look like you.

    Some words of advice: Worry about YOUR life and mind your own damn business when it comes to everyone else’s. And your fifteen minutes were up months ago.

    • November 25, 2013 10:04 pm

      … everyone else can too.

      Can and should, as well. I’ve done the thing where a “short” workout was 90 minutes of cardio. I’ve done the thing where a “cheat day” was 1200 calories. I’ve spent years of my life precariously maintaining thinness.

      Other people are welcome to choose as they wish, of course. But for me? It was not worth it. Full stop. There was no ascertainable health benefit and a good deal of measurable health damage.

      Could I have kept going at that rate? Perhaps. (I mean, I realize the data says I almost certainly couldn’t keep going indefinitely. But perhaps longer than I did.) Instead, I chose to re-prioritize, and my life has been — and continues to be — better for it.

      Even if being thin were possible for everyone (not something I’m actually positing), it is not automatically a noble or desirable outcome for each individual and should not be assigned particular moral or social value.

      I, on the other hand, would like to see a smaller proportion of people (both in and out of the US) being body shaming jerkfaces. Why is that desire not afforded equal merit? 😉

  5. November 25, 2013 8:47 pm

    :::: applauds everyone who commented above! ::::

  6. November 26, 2013 10:50 am

    Remember that “hard work, dedication, and discipline” only matter if your ultimate goal is Maria Kang’s perfect body. If you’re dedicated to being a great painter, or gardener, teacher, pastry chef, novelist, veterinarian, etc. well… that doesn’t count. Nobody cares until they can bounce a quarter off your abs, Loser.

    Nope, sorry. The only type of pursuit in this life that truly matters and makes the world a better place is one that will make you more like the great, the grand, the fantastically awesome and amazing Maria Kang!


  7. Dizzyd permalink
    November 26, 2013 7:17 pm

    Be like ‘the great, the grand, the fantastically amazing and awesome (not to mention humble) Maria ‘Queen Kong’ Kang? Ohh golly GEE! Wherever do I sign UP? Forget wanting to do good in the world – this should be THE goal of every person on the face of the planet! Little kids should reply to that question ‘And what do YOU want to be when you grow up, Johnny?’ ‘I wanna be a self-absorbed moron who sits around all day staring at my abs, convinced I’m the greatest thing that happened to mankind since EVER!!” ‘Haha Johnny! What a worthwhile goal. I hope ALL kids feel that way!’ Cue audience laughter and applause – ‘aww…’ Pardon me while I look for my eyeballs as I rolled them so hard they fell out and probably went under the table.

  8. lifeonfats permalink
    November 27, 2013 6:15 pm

    Inside Edition just aired a story on this a few minutes ago and talked to the owner of Curvy Girl Lingerie:

    Kang said she’s coming from a place of empathy. Uh, these ladies don’t need your empathy. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be buying sexy lingerie and posting pics of themselves wearing it knowing others would make mock of them like you did, you idiot!

    • vesta44 permalink
      November 27, 2013 10:39 pm

      So Kang thinks she’s coming from a place of empathy? I don’t think that means what she thinks it means. If she had a shred of empathy for women of any size, she wouldn’t be asking them “What’s your excuse?” for not dropping everything, counting every calorie that goes into their mouths, and exercising to a fare-thee-well to get a body like hers. She can take her empathy and shove it so far up her ass that it comes out her mouth (which it seems she’s already done, I guess).

    • Dizzyd permalink
      December 1, 2013 4:57 pm

      I don’t think that Kang knows what empathy means! After all, you know those Klingons – all about the fighting and stuff!

  9. December 7, 2013 5:08 am

    Isn’t there some sort of fungicide spray that can kill this thing already? Sorry, (or not) but I’ve had it with the haters today and I’m sick of hearing about this creature and her crappy attitude.

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