Filling in the Fox Gap
Trigger warning: Discussion of eating disorders.
It’s been a while, huh? A month at least. So what’s been going on? Shiiii, a lot.
I’ve talked a bit about what’s happened in college and about the looks I get as well. As far as school has gone, my sign language teacher is still a bigot and my history teacher is still terribly ignorant about anything other than her flavor of ethnocentric history, but I have reconciled with the sociology teacher (the one who was rude to me) and the “religious” teacher turned into the program director instead and the real teacher is waaaaay better. Heh, the bigot teacher has asked me to drop her class because “I will never pass [her] class” and I might as well “save [my]self from the trouble.” Thanks for the vote of confidence, lady!
Do you remember that I was taking care of my kid brother a while back? He is with our Mom now in Arizona and she too is suspicious about an eating disorder (ED) after he was spending a lot of time in the bathroom after eating. As far as I have heard, he stopped that behavior, though I worry about him hiding it better. Anyway, since he has left, I have acquired another roommate; one who is closer to my age. We’ve already went out clubbing (I NEVER KNEW IT WAS SO FUN) and had small parties at the apartment. I can tell you it’s been a big help to go home to people who care after a particularly hard day and talk about the triggers. Speaking of…
I’ve had to go to the doctors lately and, damn, if I didn’t have to go I wouldn’t. This has been my main source of pain for the past few months. I am going to have surgery soon and am required to see a specific doctor for progress and checkups leading to the table. This doctor, though, has made it very obvious that she doesn’t like me from the beginning and continually triggers my ED despite my comments and pleas. I have told her I have an ED, and immediately afterward she goes on and on about the importance of calorie counting and how it will help me “lose weight for the operation.” Right, because my restrictive nature has totally made me thin /sarcasm/. I can’t even ask to see another doctor because the other one is worse! I can’t leave for another place because my insurance requires I use that hospital or else I will have to pay full price for the surgery, but I don’t know if I will survive these people!
I have lapsed with my health and have slipped back into my ED habits. It’s taking a toll on my body and mind. I think I will have to just smile and nod with the doctor and grit my teeth until my operation date in May. Maybe I also need to take a nature trip and disappear for two weeks. Ah, how I long for no more assholes in the world, amiright? Why can’t people be tolerant and compassionate? Freaking people…. *mutter mutter*
Kitsune,
Do you have access to help for your ED? Sometimes therapy can help–just talking through the reasons why we do what we do. It’s helped me in the past. Hang in there, hon.
Unfortunately I do not. Since I am a college student, I have a severe lack of money and my insurance doesn’t cover therapy. The last time I went to a psychiatrist, they charged me $200 for a one hour visit!
I’m so sorry you’re going through that doctor nightmare! Do you have decent support system? A counselor? Support Group?
Luckily I have the support of my friends and family. As for a support group, I have you guys. 🙂
I know my campus has a student health center where people who feel like they have an ED can go to get help. Maybe yours does, too?
Actually I have been to the Clinic at my home campus and it’s basically only for minor scrapes and emergency relief. Plus they have previously given me pamphlets on my “obesity problem” and told me that I should lose weight.
can you report his ass after your surgery? At least to make it known that this excuse of a doctor has a strong weight bias and doesn’t care about what his patients say?
Fortunately the doctor I am seeing isn’t the surgeon, and when I go to meet with the surgeon tomorrow I will profusely complain. I’ve heard that this hasn’t been the first time that someone has complained about the staff, but nothing came from it apparently.
Can you report that excuse of a doctor’s ass after your surgery is done? It needs to be said. This is malpractice, he is doing you more harm than good.
I will report her. Honestly, she has been my main source of stress these past few months, on top of the stress I get elsewhere. And she (openly) wonders about why I have gained weight.
All I can offer is a hug.
*hugs* 🙂
I am sorry for your slip back into ED. I am also horrified at your professors’ behavior. I wonder if there is a support group in your area for ED? I am starting one myself. Sometimes it helps to have people to talk to. Good luck.