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Be Sexy For Me

February 10, 2015

My Boring-Ass LifeFat Sex


I grew up in a fairly conservative and religious household. Sexuality was something to be repressed and ashamed of. My aunt used to slut shame before we were even thinking of sex. As I grew up and into feminism, I began reclaiming my sexuality. I came out as bisexual and poly, began dating, exploring, having fun, and all that good stuff that comes with being an independent adult (much to my mother’s dismay I might add).

Despite the fact that fat women are often either fetishized or desexualized, as a feminist I was picky about who I slept with, and overall it’s been empowering and a plain ol’ good time for everyone involved. In fact, I have a date this week that I’m looking forward to.

But what do I do when someone asks me to be sexy?

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Round and Round: Part 2 —

February 9, 2015

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Trigger warning: Discussion of weight loss, weight and health.

The following is the next part in my series asking Health at Every Size® (HAES) questions about how the social determinants of health (SDH) fits into the HAES model. You can read the first part here.

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Round and Round: Part 1 —

February 4, 2015

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Trigger warning: This post touches on issues of health and wellness, weight loss and eating disorders.

Perhaps you aren’t aware, but there’s a seismic shift happening within the Health at Every Size® (HAES) community. It all started with the book Body Respect by Lucy Aphramor and Linda Bacon.

As most of you know, Bacon wrote the groundbreaking book Health at Every Size, which tackled the way in which personal health behaviors can have a profoundly positive effect on metabolic health even if weight loss is not a  consequence of those behaviors.

Bacon’s book was a seismic shift in itself, directly challenging the orthodox view that weight loss is the end all, be all goal for overall health and well-being. When I began blogging back in 2009, my goal was to explore the science of HAES and to find out for myself whether weight loss was necessary for health. I’m pretty sure you all know where I stand now.

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Reason, Season, Lifetime: Relationship Cleanse

February 2, 2015

Remember that time in the late 90s, early 00s when chain mail was all the rage? I was definitely one of those people who found these little nuggets in my email inbox to be more nuisance than interesting bits of reading. Often I would just hit delete and move on to the next. However, there were a few that were truly pearls and have stuck with me to this day (sorry, none of them were about Jesus or my inferred love of Him) and I’d like to share one of them. Read more…

Size and Prejudice —

January 23, 2015

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Serious Trigger Warning: Frank discussion of weight loss and weight loss surgery.

We’re coming up on our five-year anniversary here at Fierce, Freethinking Fatties and there’s one subject that I don’t think I’ve really ever talked about at length, oddly enough:  those people who are among the fattest of the fat.

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A “Big Fat Fabulous” new show on TLC

January 21, 2015

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Trigger warning: Discussion of weight loss.

Body-positive shows starring fat people are far and few between, but amongst all the “New Year! New you!” crap there is one that might just be a welcome alternative to The Biggest Loser. Unfortunately, it’s airing on TLC, the channel of multiple births, over-the-top weddings and drama queens.

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To the trolls … suck it!

January 20, 2015

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Trigger warning: Fat hate and disability shaming.

General warning: Sarcasm against trolls

Between FFF and my own blog Adventures of a Part-Time Wheeler, I’ve gotten a few comments from trolls (at least one of whom doesn’t think they are … go me!).  I could probably ignore them, but my schedule has me busy enough that I feel like addressing the comments will at least shut my neurotic brain up on things that don’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

My orange tabby Bela who tries to sleep away trolls

My orange tabby Bela who tries to sleep away trolls

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